Look, we’ve all been there before just ask anyone of your friends or even your teachers. At some point in your life you are bound to ‘disappoint’ your parents. We aren’t robots or pageant queens, perfection is simply impossible, so messing up is inevitable. It is the ways that we take on and deal with disappointment or just mistakes in our lives that is important. At the end of the day, life's a learning curve and we learn by doing, if we were to all go by what others told us to do, we wouldn’t be individuals. So, without further ado, here's a couple tips:
Know that sometimes it is inevitable
Yes our parents raised us BUT that does not mean that we share the same passions, ambitions or goals as them. You may share heaps of life values and morals but you are your own individual and not every aspect of your life is going to align with what your parents (or teachers for that matter) want. This isn’t a bad thing at all, everyone moves on or outgrows their parents at some point in their lives, for a lot of us much like myself it happens towards the end of highschool, when we are faced with the teen life crisis of what's next. Venturing into adulthood is scary and hard so it’s normal that if you want to follow your dreams you may sometimes change lanes.
2. Know that all they want is for you to be happy
At the end of the day, all your parents want for you is for you to be happy. In their heads, they have a path set out that will make you happy and if you decide to do your own thing this can freak them out. In a world that has changed so much since our parents were in school, it’s hard to explain to our mums or dads or carers that their traditional ideas of success just don’t translate into today. It is predicted that a year 12 student that graduated in 2020 will change career paths 7 times in their lifetime, this doesn’t just mean changing the restaurant that they’re working at, this means like going from being a police officer to working as a barista in a tiny Newtown cafe, these statistics were completely different when our parents where in school, therefore it’s normal that they are scared, they just want us to live a comfortable life and job instability doesn’t exactly translate to comfortable.
3. Your happiness is your top priority
No one is responsible for your happiness except for you. Your parents have done their best to give you a good life but it all comes down to you making your own happiness a top priority. You’re the one who will have to live with your decisions and if you’re not making choices with your best interests at heart, chances are you’re going to find yourself fifty years down the track stuck in a job you hate, and with a life that you don’t want. So get out there, try your best and live your best and happiest life possible. Don’t settle for just fine, in fact never settle at all stay on your toes, follow your dreams and reach for what makes you happy.
– martina
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