i need advice with friendships... i'm having a hard time.

hi there!

Yes, Friendships gotta love them.

Personally I never really fit into any friendship group either. It's quite difficult to not only communicate and initiate a conversation but there’s that element of fitting in with the crowd and wanting to be liked by others. The best advice I can give to you is that friendships come and go. Always.

If you're feeling that you don’t fit in, don’t try to fit in. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Be you.

People sometimes try way too hard to fit in with others but stuff them, be authentic yourself and eventually the good and like minded people will realise that they want to be around you.

Also don’t feel pressured to be in the grades biggest group or have the most amount of friends because trust me big groups never work. You have all these people, with all different opinions and it’s just a doorway to unnecessary drama. You do not need to have all the friends in the world.

You can count your good friends on one hand.

Friends can also come at different points in your life so don’t feel pressured to make your ‘lifelong’ friends in highschool because who knows, maybe you have an amazing person whom you meet later in your life. I find people at school are just preparation and acquaintances for what blessings are really coming your way.

However, before you venture out to find the group that you feel comfortable with, start liking yourself. Start appreciating who you are and all the amazing gifts/talents that you have been blessed with. Embrace all of your beautiful features. Don’t ever feel pressured to change yourself because someone didn’t like the way you dressed/acted/came across etc. You are worthy of everything. You're a special being that deserves to be thanked and appreciated for.

And a special friend will notice that.

✧ A special friend will accept you and appreciate you for who you are.

✧ A special friend is someone who you feel comfortable to hang around with.

✧ A special friend is someone who brings out the best in you.

✧ A special friend is someone who is non-judgemental. They accept you for who you truly are.

If you feel that you don’t fit in, try making a club or going to clubs at BCA. See Mrs Cofini and talk to her about making a club of your interest! ( This is how the BCA lavender book club and Anime Club started - purely out of students interest! )

Even come to Wildflower! It's a judgement free zone and the crew is so nice :))

I hope that this has helped you in some way or made you feel more comfortable in your own skin.

If you need any more advice or even want a friend to talk to I’m always here!

♡